Save Your Marriage While Separated: Do This! - Video

'Kimberly Beam, CEO of Marriage Helper, discusses several things you can do to save your marriage if you are separated. 

These include SMART Contact™, avoiding PUSH behaviours, and managing business items together.

Find the areas of your marriage and relationship where you are going to have to talk about certain things (mortgages, taxes, children, property, pets, etc.).

Reach out to your spouse about positive things related to the children or business items.
This will prevent negative interactions and promote positive ones. 

Doing these things will give you momentum in attempting to save your marriage while you are separated.'

Should I Give Up Or Fight For My Marriage?

'We know how difficult it is when your marriage is in trouble: the pain, helplessness, and hurt seem overwhelming. Here at Marriage Helper, we not only know this pain, we understand it, and we've had the privilege of helping thousands figure a way past this marital mess, and to find a path to being in love with each other again- even those who said they were not in love with their spouses any longer, and even those who wanted out because they felt they were deeply in love with someone else.

You can be the person who doesn't give up on your spouse, who you've loved, and still love. You can be a person who will fight for your marriage, and we'll stand alongside you and help in every way we can.'

Why Dating In Your 30s Is SOO Hard - 4 REAL Reasons Why You're Still Single - Video

Do you find dating in your 30s difficult? Extremely challenging? Very tiring and exhausting? Want to give up all the time? I hear you, I've been there and it is not a walk in the park. I wanted to give you my real insight into why dating in your 30s is hard and what you can do about it WITHOUT giving up on love! Find out more at

Too Good To Be True, Run Away!

Many people have come to me with the same problem; 'Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can't find anything wrong, so I better leave before I get hurt.'

It's very common to not be able to figure out what that strange thing is which is preventing you from having that deep connection.

'It's just too good to be true.'

That feeling triggers subconscious fears of getting hurt and prevents you from making that deep emotional connection. You then just accept that there is a problem you cannot see and run away.

But the only problem is that you cannot believe you found someone so perfectly aligned to your desires.

The qualities you're looking for in a partner are often set at a very high standard. When you actually find someone with those qualities you tend to close your heart or run away because you cannot believe it's true.

"How could I find someone with all the qualities I'm looking?" "I must be missing something."

The fear kicks in that if you find that special person, you would be so deeply in love, if they left, you would be totally devastated. So your subconscious fears tell you it is better to pick someone with flaws you can see, so you never let your heart become fully invested in the relationship.

But of course, that leads to repeated relationships that end in failure, obviously since you pick someone you are not really matched well with.

We have to learn to trust more and take a chance with a strong heart that is willing to risk being disappointed.

Our courses and articles on make you able to deal with disappointment and rejection and will make you so confident that you will not mind taking that risk.

It's only in taking a risk that you stand a chance of success, because the perfect partner is not going to know where you live and coming knocking on your door.

Be willing to try and find out if they actually are too good to be true. If you do not, your relationships will be perpetually disappointing because you will only accept and get into a relationship with someone who has significant flaws or is not what you're looking for.

If you are lucky enough to find a true gem of a partner, don't reject the special one when you find yourself thinking they're too good to be true.

If you have a feeling that something is wrong and you can't figure out what, consider that what is wrong, is your own fear.

Your fear is what keeps you in the endless loop of picking the wrong partner by missing out the right one.

To have the strength to not fear getting hurt, do these three simple steps;

Think about how many times you have been hurt, and that you are still here, you will always recover.
Look forward, not back. Difficulties are what make us stronger, and the past was just preparing you for the future, so don't let it imprison you.
There is only one thing that makes life perfect, and that is a loving relationship. If you don't take the chance, you will guarantee a lonely life. So try and know that if it works, great, but if not, you will recover and try again.
Every day is a new start to a new life. Forget the past and look forward to a happy future.

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How To Not Get Divorced During Quarantine - Video

Amber, also known as TheSensibleMama, discusses some of the struggles couples are likely to encounter during a lock-down and how some of these can be completely avoided. Find out more at

Romance Is Not Necessarily Love!

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid's dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you.

Even if you take responsibility for your own life in most ways and successfully handle most work and social situations, when it comes to intimate relationships you may feel helpless and out of control. You may find yourself inexplicably obsessing on someone who isn't available or interested, or even feeling so needy and helpless that you are unable to protect yourself when you are criticised, abused or degraded. It's a very painful experience when a romantic relationship with the partner whom you hope and expect will provide you with love, joy and fulfilment of our dreams turns into a miserable, disappointing and dismal failure.

A Dependent Image of Love

When it comes to love, it's easy to forget how to think clearly, because we have all been bombarded with images that imply love and dependency are the same thing:

• Lovers should depend on each other to supply their needs, to take care of them and "make it better",

• Lovers should need each other "You are my happiness, I'd die without you"

• Lovers are incomplete without each other, and that two should "become one"-losing their individual personalities, friends, interests and opinions in the process.

This dependent image of love has been reinforced for generations of songs, poetry, plays, books, movies and television soap operas that have celebrated a dependent model of romantic relationships that contains neediness, desperation and the idea that only love (from a perfect partner) can make life better. This "ideal lover" is supposed to:

• Love you no matter how unreasonable you are,

• Always be there when you want or need him or her,

• Always know exactly how to sooth your hurts,

• Always know (and be prepared to give you) precisely what you want (even if you're not sure yourself), and

• Put your needs before his or her own needs.

This "romantic" image of love sounds good, but although it seems exciting and fulfilling at first, such a relationship cannot flourish. Since no one else can ever care for you as well as you can yourself (they can't know your needs and wants as well as you do, they can't tell what their care-taking feels like to you, and they also have their hands full with their own needs), one or both of you will wind up feeling ripped off, used, neglected, unloved, and generally dissatisfied.

The romantic ideal creates dysfunctional relationships, in which the ground rules are:

• You can't talk about it (it might upset the other person),

• It's hopeless (since you can't talk about it, you can't solve it together), and

• We're both helpless (we can't control our own behavior, or outbursts of anger, or make effective choices).

Partner as Parent

In part, we have unrealistic fantasies about love because our first experience (and basic model) of intimate relationships was with parents who took care of us as children (and perhaps did not encourage us to become self-sufficient and responsible); or with parents who were not fully there to take care of us (as we knew they should).

While, on the surface, we are looking for someone we can enjoy and have fun with, our dependent, romantic inner self is secretly searching for a substitute for a parent-someone who will take care of us make our old wounds better, care about our feelings, and accept us for who we are. If you, like so many people, come from a family where you suffered rejection or abandonment at an early age, when you begin to search for a romantic partner, all too often, you find a substitute parent who is like the real parent who let you down, and you wind up repeating the old, subconscious patterns.

If you and your partner are fighting over silly things, if one or both of you suddenly "blows up" or gets angry and the other one doesn't understand why, or if you feel very unsatisfied and restless in your relationship, consider that one or both of you may have some confusion about the difference between parental love, and love between equal partners.

A Mature Model of Love

When you let go of the dependent, childish view of love, and use the more adult model, you'll get a different picture of familial love. Mature love is mutually caring, mutually giving and mutually responsible, without the dependent, needy or controlling imbalance of power present in the child/parent model. When you take responsibility for making love mutually satisfying, and expect equal maturity, responsibility and respect from your partner, you increase your power to receive and give love at full capacity, while retaining your self-esteem and sense of competence.

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How Long Should I Wait to Text Back? | The Truth About Playing Hard to Get - Video

Does it work to play hard to get? Should I wait to text back? These are pretty common questions for many of us! I'm here to explain the truth about playing hard to get and just how long you should wait to reply. Happy, healthy relationships are within reach when you understand a few key points.

Better Intimacy For Her, Better Sex For Him & Vice Versa - Video

Sex is not intimacy. How can you be a great lover and have an intimate connection? How do you increase relationship and sexual satisfaction? What is an orgasm and what does chocolate have to do with it? Can you save a sexless marriage? What’s the difference between porn, masturbation and reality? How do you manage resentment, stress, kids, affairs, trauma and sexual challenges? Can you connect physically without just talking about it? Amy Color’s answers educate and inspire. Intimacy Therapy Coach, international trainer, clinical supervisor, Amy Color has defined the science and sound of intimacy.

SMART Contact, While Social Distancing - Video

During this time of social distancing, we want to give you some tips so you can have better communication, less marriage tension, and healthy boundaries (whether you’re separated OR stuck at home with your spouse).

The key to doing this is SMART Contact™. In SMART Contact, you stop doing the behaviors that “push” your spouse away and you start doing things that lay a foundation for healthy communication- for when your spouse is ready and willing to open up.

First, if you’re asking, “If I can’t even see my spouse during social distancing because we’re separated how can I even practice SMART Contact?” Here’s our first tip: do not do anything that will frustrate your spouse- especially when you don’t have to do it!

Now is not the time to step out and do something that isn’t necessary. For example, one of our live show callers said she called her husband's affair partner’s spouse. It didn’t go well. Her husband did not suddenly “come to a realization” and want to change. Instead, her husband moved out and it hurt both of the families involved. 

So, if you’re anxious and stressed and feel like you HAVE to respond to your spouse; that you have to say something RIGHT NOW… wait. Sleep on it. Consider if it’s still a good idea in 24 hours. Don’t rush into doing something that may be more harmful than helpful.

Next, if you’re asking, “We’re stuck at home together… How do I navigate this tension?” Then here’s our next tip: Stress adds on top of stress.

Stop your PUSH Behaviors. Give your spouse space. Don’t bombard them with things you want them to change. Instead, focus on creating a positive environment. Focus on gratitude and work on your PIES. Right now, you have an opportunity to display the positive changes you’ve been making!

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5 Tips for Using Dating Sites to Find the Love of Your Life

With the advent of the internet and the rise in popularity of online dating, more and more people are using dating sites to meet friends and potential partners. Whether you are in the market for a local love interest or are more concerned with looks or age compatibility, these dating sites afford you the opportunity to meet singles you would not have met otherwise. However, while you can find a plethora of free online dating sites that can help you find like-minded individuals from around the globe that have the same interests, the real challenge is presenting yourself in an honest yet appealing way, and attracting someone who is looking for the same sort of relationship you are. More often than not, online dating becomes a portal for awkward first dates that go nowhere.

Even though online dating offers many perks that are harder to come by when meeting people through traditional means, there are still a number of factors that you need to take into consideration to be more successful when using these sites. Read on to find out five tips to find a long-term partner using an online dating site.

1. Build a winning profile- Let's face it, an incomplete profile often comes across as not serious or fake and is unlikely to attract the desired attention. It's better to say something about yourself, even if it's not perfect, than leaving your profile blank. Make sure you take the time to complete every question asked and write something about yourself.

2. Find the right dating site- Choose an online dating website that maximizes the chances of finding the type of person you are looking for. Large dating sites promise more potential, but because they are so generic you will have less of a chance of finding someone who shares qualities that you value, so make your pick wisely.

3. Profile picture- When it comes to online dating, a profile picture is worth a thousand words. Besides, the photo used on the profile has a significant impact on your success rate. Make sure you use a picture that has you looking directly at the camera and smiling- this is a great way to show you are confident, healthy and friendly. Furthermore, post a picture of yourself as you look today, even if you have gained a few pounds or look older.

4. Send messages- Being proactive on the dating websites and sending the first message to the other users is a simple and effective way to get your profile more noticed. Furthermore, set aside a few hours a day to write a unique and custom message to different members of the dating website. When compared to just waiting for someone to contact you, sending out introductory messages will significantly increase your chances of getting a positive response.

5. Be choosy- With online dating, the dating pool is right at your fingertips. Furthermore, you will find plenty of people you can connect with, which means you get to be as picky as you want. Browsing through the website and checking out as many profiles as possible will help you find the right person who has the same interests as you.

Free online dating sites not only help you find love on the Internet but also give you the ability to date someone at any time of the day. By keeping mind the above-mentioned tips and tricks, you will be able to put your best foot forward in the online dating world!

Connecting Singles is the trendiest free online dating site that is genuine.

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